A few indulged on a bachelor's trip to Prague, another hired a prostitute every night on his way home from the pub, and yet another hired services online a few times a month. So I thought I'd ask them outright: why do you pay for sex? The answers are way simpler than you'd imagine:.
This was the top reason they all gave. I was surprised, since the guys I asked are all good-looking, successful in their chosen fields, and have no problem getting dates. But they all agreed that to sleep with stunning women, the easiest way was simply to pay. But truthfully, I'm more concerned that I'm getting what I want, since I paid for it. And because I paid for it, I'm not afraid to ask. Most of them said there's something very hot in being able to ask for what you want in bed and get it, no questions asked.
Thankfully the former prostitute revealed most men prefer the feel of real boobs and there is a market for every body type. But in her experience, women can be successful at any age, and she has witnessed escorts in their 30s, 40s, 50s and 60s earning good sums of money. In fact, many men want a genuine conversation and connection — something they might not get with girls the same age as their daughters. Can you see me wanting to book a year-old?
If I wanted to have some conversation and connection and to feel like I was getting the attention I wanted, do you think a year-old would necessarily give me that kind of service?
And clearly, there are even surprises there. But you have to wonder why someone with so much to lose would participate in such high-risk behavior that could be and in this case was found out.
Is it possible that someone in that position wants to be unconsciously discovered? Has so much guilt seeped into his psyche that he purposely leaves a trail of easily-followed clues? The governor was fighting for much stricter laws on the books to prosecute the men who visit prostitutes.
In actuality, did he want to punish himself? Or is there a sense of self-delusion? Did he think of himself as omnipotent, that is, too smart to be caught? Did the rules apply to everyone except him? One other possibility, although improbable, is that some couples may have a private deal.
She's not interested in having sex, or if she is, it's not the kind that he wants, and therefore he has permission to visit a prostitute. No emotion that might threaten the marriage is allowed, but he can remain sexual. Some clubs even offer happy-hour specials. In the opinion of these dissenters, johns in the U. However toxic the activity might be to the men, the women often end up more seriously wounded by it.
At the very least, prostitutes suffer psychologically from trying to wall off their own emotions so that they can sell intimacy as a commodity. In addition, they often suffer from physical abuse at the hands of their customers. The annual report of KARO, an organization trying to thwart prostitution in the region dividing Germany and the Czech Republic, noted many incidents of brutality related to the selling of sex.
Prostitutes in the U. Prostitution is not a profession women pursue because they like the work. Thus, many experts argue that the female sex workers are not the real drivers of prostitution.
Instead the business survives because of demand from the legions of males who have problems in their relationships with women. This rationale lies behind the law in Sweden that came into force in under which selling sex is legal but buying sex is not. The same notion also propels a growing crop of workshops and classes in the U.
Martin A. Why Do Men Buy Sex? Michael S. State University of New York Press, Already a subscriber? Sign in. Thanks for reading Scientific American. Create your free account or Sign in to continue. See Subscription Options. Go Paperless with Digital.
0コメント